Posts Tagged ‘Parenting’

This has been an incredible week (let’s hope our luck holds a few more days for that test!)

This week I am thankful for:

  • B finally using the potty!!  No accidents this week at all so far.  She’s been potty training the entire almost 2 years that she’s been with us.  She obviously wasn’t ready to start 2 years ago, but mom and dad were anxious, and then I think it became a power struggle, but whatever it was, she’s had a great week this week.
  • Finding out that my mommy’s surgery which had supposedly been denied, had not been denied at all… it hasn’t been approved yet, but we are supposed to find out today whether it is approved.
  • Our new life insurance policy finally went through (woohooo!!!).  This was very important because, first of all, we needed more insurance on Erik than we’ve been carrying, and second, we need the money from our first policy to pay off the machine repairs froma few weeks ago.  We will now have a more economical term life policy instead of the weird policy we had before, we’re getting more than twice the coverage (almost 3x actually) for Erik, and a bit more for me and paying just a few dollars more than before.
  • Sun… sun… and more sun!!  We got to go to the park yesterday and for a beautiful walk today.  It’s so beautiful it’s almost too hot to wear sweaters anymore (I better get some short sleeved shirts soon, I don’t have any left from last year, but new clothes are always fun 🙂  ).  I even got a sunburn yesterday!
  • Our fixed hospital bill for Nick.  Originally the hospital billed us more than $800 for Nick’s emergency room visit (when he hit his head on a tree while sledding).  We were going to put in a dispute because they billed it as a level 4 trauma, which when my mom told me what that was, I knew they had misbilled.  I told the lady in billing we were going to dispute it, apparently she put in the dispute for us!  Last week we got notification that it had been changed from level 4 to level 2.  This week we got notice that that meant it dropped from more than $800 to $150!!! 
  • For the first time since we moved to Idaho, our finances are really looking up.
  • I have also somehow managed to wait to test until it will be long enough to get accurate results… please be praying for a positive result and a sticky (as in one that sticks, not as in one that has problems)  pregnancy!  After all of this time my emotions are getting very raw on the subject again.
  • The most giving child on the planet.  Nick spent a half hour crying the other day because he wanted to make something for me but couldn’t figure out what.  I felt awful that he was crying, but touched that he wanted sooooooooooo badly to do something for me (I did offer suggestions, but he didn’t like any of them).
  • Homeschooling, and getting to spend every day with my little miracle child.
  • An absolutely amazing natural doctor.

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As I sat at gymnastics today with Nick, I couldn’t help but be struck with how incredibly fortunate I am to be surrounded by wonderful women who are absolutely fantastic mothers.  These women are kind, gentle, patient, loving mothers, and even when they get flustered or upset, they handle it so beautifully.  I’m sure they are not perfect, but still, they are truly wonderful. 

Everytime I go to Explorer’s club, gymnastics, or any of our other homeschooling activities, I get to see these beautiful women parenting their children with all of the love, kindness, and respect that I strive to treat my son with.  I so often feel like I fall so short of the mother I want to be.  Yet being with these women, watching how they handle situations, I feel like I gain new skills to be a better mother.  Plus it is sheer joy just to see parenting done so right.

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Nick is 6 today! I put a post on our family blog in honor of his 6th birthday. It’s got some fun photos, you should really check it out!


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Today I am pondering what it is in people that makes them resilient. Why can some people pick up after major hurts and go on, while others are debilitated for life? What is the difference, and how can we instill those traits in our children?

I like to consider myself a fairly resilient person. I’ve been through a lot of stuff in my life and I still keep going and in the end try to use those things to make me stronger. I know faith plays a big part in this, but I also know that some of it seems to be personality, so is resiliency something I can teach my child, and if so, how do I do that?

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I had a lot of epiphany moments today, some of them were things that I knew before, but just cemented in my head a little more today, others were fairly new ideas.

1. I remember being told as a child that the actions of a child directly reflect on their parents, that people judge parents by their children. This makes me totally paranoid about how Nick acts. I worry too much about what other people think, and I realized that I am letting it affect how I parent my child, especially when I parent in public.

I am probably not explaining this well, but here is my epiphany, as I wrote it when I pulled over on the side of the street on my way home from class 🙂 :

I am not responsible for who my son is, or who he becomes. God made him who he is, he will decide who he becomes. My job is to teach / give him the foundation, experiences, knowledge, beliefs, and morals that will help him to become the best person he can be and that will help him to learn to make the choices that will take him down the right path, the path God would choose for him.

2. I am the best parent for my son. God sent him to me because he is who I need and I am who he needs. As long as I do my best for him, it will be enough, because if it wouldn’t be enough he wouldn’t have come to me. I am perfectly capable of giving him everything he needs from his mother. Erik is perfectly capable of giving him everything he needs from a father. We just need to do out best for him, and he will get from us what he needs.

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Today I cleaned Nick’s closet out. I’ve been noticing a progressive trend in his closet everytime I change clothes he’s outgrown out. His clothes are growing progressively darker. Why don’t they make little boy’s clothes in fun colors? His adorable little Winnie the Pooh and Diego clothes came in reds, oranges, yellows, and bright greens. Now, his clothes all come in dark blue and black. Why can’t the transformers be on a fun orange or red shirt? I wish they’d make them in better colors and with more characters for the young kids. Just because their clothes are in the same area as the 9 and 10 year olds doesn’t mean they have the same interests. It’s of course compounded by the fact that Nick is a tall kid, but I just hate that we can’t find clothes for him that look his age.

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An Interesting Day

Today I didn’t have extra child (the little one I take care of during the day), because her mom was off work. I decided that son and I should have a nice mother/son day. I wanted to take him out to do something he’d enjoy and then come home, play games, maybe paint his volcano. It didn’t quite go as planned.

I spent the ENTIRE morning (until 11:50) trying to get him to get dressed. Plus, he didn’t want to go out, at all. I really wanted to make it a special day and was really dissappointed that he found puttering around in his room for 2 hours more interesting than gettind dressed so that he could do something special with mom. It especially upset me because I know when hubby wants to take him out, he’s dressed, shoes and all, in about 5 minutes. I guess though when you spend all day every day with mom, going out with her isn’t quite so exciting.

It did turn around though. By the time he finally got ready, it was lunch time, so we had lunch with hubby and then went and played a couple of Wii games, a gazillion board games, and then read a couple of stories. All in all we enjoyed each other and had a lot of fun. Son laughed hysterically throughout the games, and it brought great joy to me to see him so happy.

So in the end it was a good day.

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